Do you ask for recommendations?
I don't mean for your CV in terms of references. I'm not even sure that people follow this stuff up any more or ask for them. I mean recommendations.
- "Would you recommend me or my work to someone else?"
- "Can you give me a quote that I can use that describes your recommendation?"
LinkedIn makes this easy to do, but I never asked for recommendations.
I would happily write recommendations for others. Unasked, because I appreciated the work they did.
I never had any concerns about writing recommendations for others. But I know that people sometimes feel they don't have to write recommendations because "this person is obviously good, they don't need a recommendation", or "it might seem too obsequious", or a variety of other reasons. This is simply a psychological barrier.
I wrote recommendations for people, as an
easy way of saying thank you.
And I still have many more recommendations to write because I've worked with so many people who have skill sets and attitudes that make them valuable and I would want to work with them again.
But I never asked for recommendations.
When I look back on why, I can see psychological barriers
- I don't want to impose
- Will it seem needy?
- This isn't what I do
I wasn't concerned if they thought my work was good or not, because I believed my work was good. It just wasn't something I did.
But this is business.
And psychological barriers are not conducive to good business or good marketing.
"Social proof" is one of the key marketing strategies that we use to sell. Recommendations act as a simple form of "social proof". These people like it, you will too. I need to harness that to sell my work as a consultant.
So I recently decided to "just do it". I used the Linkedin features to ask a few people I had worked with if they would contribute a recommendation to my Linkedin profile.
With the act of doing so, and the receipt of each response, the psychological barriers lowered and changed.
It was easy. I didn't feel needy - if anything I felt manipulative. But the responses I received contained higher praise and more heartfelt praise than I would expect through manipulation.
I did feel like I was imposing, but people will either ignore the request or respond, and those that responded seemed like they valued the chance to say thank you for the work I'd done with, and for, them.
I will do this now more often. The responses help boost the Linkedin profile and add some social proof. But more important to me. The responses humble me. They will make me maintain my work ethic and quality of work, because I now have to live up to those recommendations, and keep living up to and exceeding those recommendations.
I'll ask for recommendations because the act of asking helps me overcome any marketing or social reticence. And if they honour me with a recommendation. I'll work ever harder to boost my skill sets and maintain my abilities so that I can live up to it.
Now I know that when I'm giving a recommendation to someone, I'm not just saying thank you. I'm giving them something to live up to.